“I did so much work to improve myself and meet her needs. She still lives nearby and I feel stuck.”
The Ex Detox: 30 days to get your attention back
Somewhere in your week, your attention still reports to her. The checking, the rereading, the imagined arguments at a red light. The Ex Detox is a 30-day habit protocol that ends the checking and hands you back your evenings. Every rule is free on this page, and you can start tonight.
It starts with the Attention Audit: six questions about your last week that put a number on the hours still going to her. Generic breakup advice never had that number. You will, in about two minutes.
Six questions about your own week. The rules are free either way.
You've already met the no-contact industry. Thirty days of silence sold as a lure: go quiet so she notices, so she misses it, so she circles back. That whole racket keeps you pointed straight at her, which is the exact problem it claims to solve.
The Ex Detox points the other way. The prize is your own attention and your own evenings. Same quiet on the surface. Opposite compass.
- The Attention Audit: six questions and your Attention Debt number, shown instantly
- The eight rules of the 30 days, free, no email needed
- A co-parent lane and a she-lives-nearby rule, built in
- Tonight's first move takes ten minutes, and you'll sleep better for it
Six channels, one number.
Seven straight answers about a subject most men dodge. However the number above reads, you just did the part of this that can't be faked, and everything below is built on those answers.
Where the number comes from
Run the same thirty days in reverse
The racket you've already met sells thirty days of silence as a lure: aim the quiet at her and wait for it to work on her. The Ex Detox takes the same thirty days and reverses the direction. Every rule below points at your own attention and your own evenings, the exact hours the audit just counted.
The 30 days: eight rules
All of it, free, right here. Read the rules, then start tonight. The card, the log, and the backup emails come with the opt-in below, and none of them is required to begin.
The rules are free. This is the backup.
The opt-in adds the printable protocol card with the 30-day grid, plus the urge log dashboard and nine emails timed for the nights this gets hard. Most men don't fail the Detox on day one; they fail it alone on day ten. The backup is for that.
Done. The card is on its way, and your dashboard is live below.
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When the checking is handled
The Detox handles the habit. Some men find the log pointing at something bigger: a house, a friend group, a set of routines that still have her shape in them. That work has its own room.
Stop Living Around Your Ex (live workshop)
A working session on the architecture around the habit: the spaces, the mutual friends, the routines that keep a life arranged around someone who left it. The Detox quiets the checking; the workshop redraws the floor plan.
The Inner Reset (GRAB Control program)
The full Pillar 1 program behind the workshop: your reactions, your frame, and the self-command the rest of your life runs on.
Streak counts full days since the last slip. The day counter never restarts.
Stop Living Around Your Ex
A week of log entries is usually enough to see the pattern. When the triggers keep pointing past the phone at the life around it, that's the workshop's territory: Stop Living Around Your Ex.
Log an urge
Three taps. The log makes the pattern visible; it never grades you.
The log
Nothing logged yet. The first entry usually shows up around 9 pm.
The Ex Detox: 30-Day Protocol Card
Midlife Unlocked · Started: ________________ · Day 30: ________________
Tick a box each night the checking stayed at zero. A slip costs a day, never the month: log it, find the trigger, restart the streak. Kids and court-ordered communication always come first; the co-parent channel never counts as contact. This card is a habit protocol for where your attention goes, and it is no substitute for professional care when a month gets genuinely heavy.